Wedding Monograms Etiquette

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Incorporating monograms into your wedding day can be the perfect way to add that personal touch. I’ve noticed recently that couples are coming up with very creative ways to display monograms. Long ago, young girls would monogram linens with their maiden name long before they were engaged and store them in a hope chest. Once they were married they would then monogram new linen with the initials from her husband. It is most common today to see monograms consisting of three, two or single initials. What you may not realize is that there is monogram etiquette surrounding this fabulous idea. Here are a couple pointers to consider:

Before the wedding: It is suggested to not use your married monogram until after the ceremony. Things like save-the-dates and invitations should use a monogram with just your first initials or first name.

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During the wedding ceremony: This portion of the day is in a little bit of a gray area. Some feel it’s okay to use your married monogram because you will be uniting as one. Using your married monogram for unity candles, ceremony programs or other ceremony details is totally up to you!

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After the wedding ceremony: Complete freedom! Your married monogram can be used anywhere you wish. Proudly show off the unity of you and your sweetie on the menu cards, dance floor, cake or anywhere you can think of!

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Last detail is the sequence of your married monogram. The bride’s initial always comes first followed by the groom’s last initial and then first initial. This way the groom’s name is separated. The grooms last initial is also commonly larger than the first and last initial.